Learning To Walk Before You Try To Run

Last time, we talked a little about common quick fixes to getting pregnant when things aren’t going to plan, whether that’s self help solutions, like losing a bit of weight (something we should all think about from time to time), or when the time comes to get a little help from a professional like a chiropractor. An often overlooked are though, state of mind, is something that we’ll look at today, as even if you’re not the sort of person to be superstitious, there are certain aspects which are easy to see as common sense.father over cot

Let’s start at the end of the spectrum that people often write off as silly, and that’s buying loads of stuff for your baby before you’re even pregnant. If you’re browsing Amazon for bargains and arranging delivery of something like the cheap Motorola MBP18 baby monitor or spending a little more on the bestselling Motorola MBP36S, you’re actually jumping an important step, to spell it out – conception!

Of course, if you’re very matter of fact about life, the chances are that you’ll not believe that a simple purchase will have any impact at all on your ability to make babies, but there’s always going to be a slight change in your state of mind once things are being bought, as it’s actually quite a significant marker in the sand that you really are going to be a mummy or daddy one day in the not too distant future! It’s a huge decision in anyone’s life, so no matter how buried in the subconscious, it’s going to trigger at least a little anxiety in there somewhere. Even if you’ve got superhuman confidence and comfort in such a massive decision, your partner may not, and it still takes two to tango!

There’s also the consideration that regardless what you buy or don’t buy, it may not happen for you. We don’t mean to be mean or negative, but until you’re pregnant, you don’t categorically know that you and your partner are able to have children at all. It’s unlikely to be a problem of course, but if that does become clear, any money spent today may turn out to be a waste, not to mention a reminder of the disappointment in future too if things don’t happen.

So, that’s the two polar opposite ends of the spectrum, so what should you do about it? Well, the obvious answer is get practising, as starting a family is supposed to be fun! There’s going to be years of sleepless nights and other family focused headaches ahead, so make the most of the last few months of relative freedom. If you want to start investing in parenthood, you can always buy a few Amazon vouchers, then cash them in for that baby monitor or whatever else later, once you’ve had that positive test. Many people even leave the purchasing until after the 12 week scan, as the chance of the pregnancy completing successfully after the third month soars as you enter the second trimester.

What’s more, people will be falling over themselves to buy baby things as soon as they find out, so there’s a great chance that you won’t need to foot the bill yourself anyway. Naturally, it’s exciting, but for now, enjoy the precious time with your partner before there’s a little person around to monopolise their time!

Struggling To Get Pregnant? Is Weight Loss The Magic Fix?

Getting pregnant is usually a big part of a woman’s life plans. Many American women start to formulate their wish list at a very young age, dreaming of their wedding, their husband and naturally that leads to thoughts of a family of their own. The vast majority of people love family life, as it conjures up memories of Christmas times past, along with other big occasions, usually with a big family meal as a focal point.

Sadly, for too many women, getting pregnant turns out to be the difficult bit. Ahead of time, you would expect finding the right man, saving for the wedding and perhaps saving for a house deposit to be the big hurdles. Intentionally glossing over the physics of it, fun though making a baby is expected to be, putting family planning into action sometimes just doesn’t happen that quickly.

Once you’re married, or perhaps disappointing your parents by being wonderfully modern and considering starting a family out of wedlock, the pressures have a nasty habit of starting to mount. We all know about the pill and condoms being near 100% effective at preventing unwanted pregnancies, but for some women, there can be a similar statistic for preventing a wanted child being conceived too.

That contraceptive force can come in a number of ways, all of which can be stressful, cause anxiety and all manor of other things that are never going to be helpful in trying to get pregnant. Common causes include putting a date on wanting to get that positive test result, and even knowing looks from your mother, or worse still your mother in law, knowing full well that they’re impatiently awaiting an announcement.

It’s highly advisable to think about all this with you partner well in advance. After all, he’s going to feel the pressure too. Get into good habits ahead of time – improve your diet if you’re partial to junk food, as a healthy body is far more likely to want to create a whole new body inside you. Solve as many of those outstanding life problems that have been niggling away for years. Perhaps you hate your job, get a new one! If that’s your problem though, think carefully as it may affect any maternity benefits if you fall quickly pregnant after starting out with a new employer.

The biggest problem we see, though, is excess weight. We know that you know that too, and we know that you hate hearing it, but losing weight will do wonders for an overweight couple that are struggling to have a baby. We say couple as it can be as much about Dad as it is about Mum. It relates back to eating more healthily, as good habits in the kitchen can help weight to fall away on its own. The bigger you are the more effective weight loss will be too – even losing a stone for a twenty stone lady can make all the difference,even though it’s highly advisable to use the motivation to get down to a much healthier BMI. Common signs that it’s time to live healthier include regular lower back pain, so even if you’re not yet trying to conceive, if you suffer from back ache, that can be a good sign that you need to address the issue ahead of time. See your local chiropractor to get a plan together, as they’ll often be able to help you to mix a simple exercise schedule in with your better eating plans to get the results faster.

Hopefully giving a bit of thought to how you (and your partner) can be in the best shape to have a baby in the coming months and years will prevent you from ever having a problem in the first place. You may be absolutely fine as you are, but why not use the excitement and anticipation to solve any other future health problems now, rather than have that nagging thought in the back of your mind in the years to come when you’ve got a little one to look after – you’ll even have more energy to get outside and play!

 

Making Life’s Big Decisions

Having a child is probably going to be the biggest decision you ever make. Bigger than buying a house or car, bigger than getting married. You’re creating a new life, someone who will be entirely reliant on you for many years to come, and someone that you’ll be legally responsible for over the next 18 years.

Our family planning help isn’t all about conception, as many people believe. It’s about help you to understand the decisions you’re making, and their implications. It’s about helping you through pregnancy (whether you’re mum or dad) and helping you to be ready for what’s coming and minimise any surprises.

We all know that childbirth is going to be a very big event, which mums in particular will be likely to be dreading and looking forward to at the same time. After all, it’s the moment that life changes forever for mum and dad, and a whole beautiful life begins.